Wait–don’t we need to make good decisions?
Sometimes my forays into cautionary tales about being judgmental are met with vehement cries of derision–especially when one’s work hinges upon the ability to make informed and wise decisions. As a teacher, I remember frequent reminders that teachers make upwards of 1,500 critical decisions each day affecting students, parents, schools, communities—well, you get the picture. Teachers are hardly alone in their circles of influence.
I have come to the place where my most solid assurance is that there is no end: that the conversations go on between all the souls who love each other, living and dead. There is nothing catastrophic; we just continue learning how to love better. Each person comes to their core truth in their own way and at their own time. When you get to that place, you never want to leave that solid foundation. You just build from there.
Decisions, words-meanings, and relationships
So, the building: we humans have our gargantuan task of working out the fabric of meanings that fashion our relationships. The life-raft relationships we build despite the raging oceans of our many languages, cultures, contexts, values–all of it, can be secured or destroyed upon the interpretation of a single word.
In my opinion, our interpretation and application of the difference between judgment and discernment is worth mindful consideration.
Value of souls vs. value of physical matters
Judgment addresses the value of a person. If we can accept that we are all differently-gifted for our own unique life’s purpose, every individual would have equal value. We each contribute to the whole in our own way. I see it as the value of one’s soul and worthiness to take up space, be heard, and be loved.
Discernment, however, is dependent on what can be observed: objective matters. I discovered an article published a few years ago (2011) in Psychology Today. It was written by Dr. Raj Raghunathan, who explains it much more eloquently. Here it is again:
What do you think? What determines the difference between judgment and discernment for you? How does that kind of distinction play out in your daily living?
Love, ❤ ❤ ❤