You are not to blame. 

Victim blaming happens everywhere.

Passionately Me

A common feeling for victims of domestic violence is I deserved it or it was my fault.

No one deserves this and it is never your fault.

Regardless if you are a male or female victim you are not to blame. Your abuser made a choice. Probably several choices over a long period of time. You may not even be your abusers first victim.

I didn’t want to believe it then, but I recently realized I wasn’t the first. What’s crazy to me is, in the beginning of our relationship, my husbands ex girlfriend tried to warn me. I remember the phone call and the texts that came with it warning me of his violent nature, his tendency to hurt both physically and emotionally. She was smart. She left him. And there I was so confused. What did I do? I called him. I told him what…

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