We live in a world where people want to be happy on your behalf and don’t really care if you are happy.
They can’t imaging you unhappy since they’re happy for you!
For this reason, the push you into things that will make them happy for you.
Note: THESE PEOPLE CARE FOR YOUR HAPPINESS. But do they really CARE ENOUGH TO KNOW IF YOU ARE ACTUALLY HAPPY.
Where are the students
I have worked as a college professor, in one capacity or another, since 2011. Until last fall, I was consistently optimistic about the progression of my skill level as an instructor, and the quality of the student population. I imagined there would be some disconnection between the high school curriculum, and opportunities to bridge gaps in knowledge. I always want to send a new batch of students on their way to academic success. I’m not foolish or self-important enough to believe that I will have an impact on lives of all my students, but that does not keep me from giving it a shot.
I usually inherit a room full of young people (intermingled with actual adults) who have been delivered to the higher education system fresh out of f**ks and unbothered. Colleges are overrun with groups of young people, super confident in their skills and sorely lacking in their performance. Before you deep breathe, slow blink, or offer an obligatory eye roll, please take a moment to recognize that this is an “in the trenches assessment” from someone close to the issue. This does not apply to every student, but the majority of first-time students go on break prior to clocking in for work.
As near as I can tell, anything adjacent to an explanation for this decline in student preparation can be categorized into three areas
- No one told them excuses made in high school are now void: Bottom line, no one cares that you were sick, that you were hung-over, or that you forgot that it was due. Figure it out!
- No one ever made sure they had adequate adult coping skills: Believe me; I understand that we love our children, however, the parade of second place prizes and pep talks ensuring them that they were still winners even though they lost just were not the answer. If you lose, you are a loser. “If you’re not first you’re last and all that sort of thing”. It’s ok to not be the best, it builds character and determination.
- Life up till now has been pretty convenient: Not everyone was wealthy, got it, but most people have had access to modern conveniences. Cell phones, computers, on-demand T.V. , have all helped to cement convenience as a custom or expectation. The reality is that work is, well… work, or we would call it something else. Learning is often not convenient, occasionally not easy, and never done exactly your way.
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So what do you do? The only thing that I have found that combats the apathy of some student is consistency. When students have a routine, it helps feel a measure of control over their chaos. If all else fails, there is always scaring the shit out of them.Just kidding!! (mostly). So parents/guardians, fear not, there is hope for your spoiled little ball of raw potential. They can come out shiny new and full of…well I am not exactly sure what they will be full of, at least they will have a set of skills.